No matter how much you enjoy sex for the first time with your man, you are only truly satisfied and content if you know in your heart that he loves you and respects you even after you gave your all to him. A man will reveal his true feelings after he has cum, not before, and certainly not during sex. Sex talk is very biased and you need to distinguish between that and real and honest talk. Sex talk is beautiful and the things we say when we’re having sex are epic and unbelievable.
Have you ever noticed after a man cums he goes quiet? He lies down. He’s less into kissing. He’s less into touching. He’s kind of aloof. During sex he becomes what I call a ‘sex professor’. He vomits feelings all over you. Don’t laugh, it is true. When a man is having sex, there’s a rush of emotions which tend to make him say things that his mind has not processed.
Scientific research shows that after sex, the body produces a hormone oxytocin which makes you more attached to the person you just had sex with. Unfortunately, for women the period is longer- about 2 weeks after having sex that hormone can still keep you attached to the guy. And for guys- it’s a shorter period of only 48 hours or so…So, you see, after sex you will be more attached to the guy than the guy will be attached to you. So make sure that he is the right guy in advance, before you start having sex with him.
Here are some ways you can get your man to love you after sex:
1.Respect him if he deserves it
Once a man knows that he is respected he automatically tends to reciprocate in the same manner. If he’s trying to make you jealous with other women he is not respecting you. If your man refuses to be loving and caring after sex it only proves that his feelings are not deep enough! Make him realize your worth and he will readily give you all the love and attention you want. Let him prove worthy of fabulous you! And when he does? Appreciate the hell out of him!
2.Don’t act clingy or desperate
Maybe it was a one-night stand. That’s okay. All you have to do is to act casual and don’t act like you expect him to produce a ring just because you spent the night together! This will make him relax. Instead all you have to do is make him know that you had a wonderful time. He will love you for it.
3.Make him know that you are not “cheap”
Just because you had sex with him does not mean that he can treat you like one! Make it pretty clear to him that you will not tolerate being treated like a fast or cheap woman. Let him chase you and do his best to get you into bed again. Don’t make it easy for him and he will love to chase you.
4.Let him get emotional first
Wait till you tell him how much you care for him. It is better to make him fall deeply in love with you first. Keep him attracted to you. Work on your sex appeal and make him crave you. This way you have him under your spell. Soon he will be with you because he truly cares and not only because of the sex.
5.Prolong the afterglow as long as possible
Don’t rush off after sex pretending you have something to do just because you are afraid that it will get too awkward. Give him time to enjoy the sensation of having you beside him. Relax in his arms and don’t talk unless he does. It is possible he will get to really love you because you seem so comfortable to be with.
6.Don’t start making demands
Many women spoil their chances with their men because they read too much into the relationship without waiting to check if they feel the same way. If you demand his attention and act like he belongs to you, he will resent it and tend to treat you badly. Have patience and be yourself – chances are that he will really fall for you.
7.Tell him that you had a wonderful time and leave!
It has to be honest though. Even though a part of you is dying to possess – don’t! Just kiss him and leave him wanting more of you. If you don’t expect too much from him then he will love you for it! It will make him enjoy the sex more.
The main point here is letting the relationship to unfold organically and naturally without forcing things. What makes a difference is in the women’s stance and emotional mastery, not about what you often read out there: putting out vs. holding out, Steve Harvey’s how many dates before sex and so many more things you can do to let him chase you and keep the love fire burning.